April 27, 2012

I want to address something that has been bugging me for quite sometime.  If something is bothering me I MUST get it out or else I will burst into flames.  Literally. (Well, not really literally because I won't actually burst into flames, but very figuratively.)

The first time I noticed people's inability to RSVP was when Preston and I were getting married. It was like pulling teeth to nail down the guest list because nobody wanted to RSV. If you have ever planned a wedding, or any important event for that matter, then you know that in order to properly plan you need to know who is coming, right?  Right.

I've pondered for quite some time why it is so hard for people to let you know whether or not they are coming to your play date, dinner date, Pampered Chef party, Mary Kay party, birthday party, etc.  Here is my conclusion: people don't like to commit to anything.  If you commit to my event, then that means that you might not be able to go to something else that you would rather go to.  You want "me" to be an option, instead of making a commitment to me, or what is important to me.  We live in a society of options. Paper or plastic?  Processed or organic?  High heels or flats?  We just don't know what to do with ourselves when it comes to making a concrete decision, do we?  What I find ironic is that "you" don't RSVP to my party, but when it comes to your party you want to know if I'm coming.  You want me to be considerate of your plans, and your time because somehow knowing if
I'm coming to your party is a must, but letting me know if you are coming to my events, isn't quite as important.  Isn't it funny how that works?

So here is my charge to you: if you are invited somewhere, please show some consideration and let the host know whether or not you are coming. Remember that your silence is not an RSVP.  Your silence leaves me guessing, which eventually gets me frustrated, and a frustrated Bonnie is no fun! Wink Wink;)  If you do commit to something, then show up!  I realize things come up. I have a husband and two kids myself, but if you are someone that is constantly saying that you are coming to something and you rarely show up, then guess what that makes you? It makes you a flake.  I don't know about you, but I want to be known as a woman who is reliable, a woman who does what she says she is going to do, and a woman who is considerate of other people and their time.


Ok, I feel better now! Do you?  I hope so.  I'm having a play date next week who's coming? LOL

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