April 10, 2012

"Is that your foot? Because it looks like your brother's head," I asked.

That stopped them in their tracks and got them giggling. "Ha Ha! No!" they laughed in the tub. My daughter had been playing with the shampoo bubbles in my son's hair after I had asked her three times to wash her feet.

Young kids can really test our patience. We can get frustrated and feel as if we are endlessly scolding or threatening.

Like when it's REALLY "time to get in the car" and one child saunters past nonchalantly, "I have to go to the bathroom." "Then GO! GO! GO! already!" you want to yell. "And why didn't you go 10 minutes ago when I asked?" you want to throw in.

You can try a simple "OK" while you grit your teeth, or go for humor. "Perfect! Because that'll give me time to practice my cartwheels!" or whatever silly things you do at your house. Say it like you mean it as you start the motions – they give you the are-you-serious look and laugh [my kids are easy marks] and you release the tension their delay caused in you. That is, if you're like me and these little things do make you lose your patience. If they've gotta go, they've gotta go. Verbally expressing your frustration benefits no one.

My kids have no innate sense of urgency. [They get that from their father, of course. Wink, Wink.] But they're not unique in that aspect and I'm learning to roll with it. Kids usually don't NEED a sense of urgency. I think a bit of anxiety is often paired with it, too, and that'll certainly come soon enough on its own. As long as we model how to be on time and show consideration of other's schedules, etc. we're good.

I've also realized for the most part WE are in charge of the time table and if we can't get out the door on time, WE need to modify things to make that achievable.

"Last one to the car eats 10,000 peas for dinner!"  grin

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